What Is So Hard?

What is so hard about deposing sexism? Why can't we come to a point where men are given the same say and rights and privileges with children as women? Why can't we congratulate the men who bend over backwards for their children, who spend time with them, read to them, help them with their homework, and play catch with them, with the same unconditional devotion we reserve for "moms?" Why can't single fathers get so much as an acknowledgement rather than a lecture on statistics? What is so hard about that?

What is so hard about ending this generational program to make our sons pay the price for the sexism of their great-grandfathers? If it is justifiable that we devalue boys today as retribution for the patriarchy of yesterday, does that mean it will be justifiable to devalue the girls of the future as retribution for this current strain of sexism? Why must we ridicule those hungering for sexual equality for being whiny, petty, or egotistical, only so long as they are male? Can we not accept the sexism of the past for what it was without trying to "make up for it" by turning one against the other in the present?

Why must we let a few bad men dictate how we see all men? Why must our children go devoid of positive male role models because we fear the child molesters in our heads? Doesn't that make as much sense as never going in the water for fear of a shark attack when so few happen to begin with? If statistical outliers like single dads cause us to withhold our sympathy for them, why must other statistical outliers like child molesters cause us to assume so much derision? Is sympathy a harder emotion to feel than derision? What is so hard with praising the men who deserve praise instead of only demonizing those who do wrong? 

Why can't we just treat our sons and daughters and mothers and fathers (single or coupled), as if their biological sex was not a determinant of whether they deserve praise or derision? Why can't we just treat everyone doing well by children with respect and dignity without regard to sex, race, age, or any other permanent or impermanent characteristic? What is so hard about that?